It happens in 8 different ways!

CT tells you the where, when, how and what of the extra-marital affair .Writing about extramarital affairs doesn't need a 'peg' . It's happening all around us all the time. Now we hear that there are eight kinds of extramarital affairs. These are listed in Emile M Brown's book, Affairs: a Guide to Working through the Repercussions of Infidelity. Taking a cue from Brown, here's presenting a logical breakdown of the illogical business of illicit relationships:
SITUATIONAL AFFAIR:
Actor Deepti Naval has talked about the difficulties of making celebrity marriages work in the face of situational affairs."Actors are vulnerable in their work atmosphere," she has said. "You're surrounded by people who react to you in a certain way, and you respond without ever meaning to. No one thinks they'll get into a relationship outside their marriage deliberately. But when you're thrown together for weeks with someone, you become more vulnerable to situational romances." The issue is not of conflict, but of lack of togetherness between spouses.
SEXUAL ADDICTION AFFAIR:
A sexual addict can have as many as 50 affairs in his/her lifetime, without getting emotionally involved with any partner. Sex is an antidote to every discomfort. "Sexual addicts refuse to accept any problem with their behaviour," says counsellor Dr Minnu Bhonsle. "Their spouses soon realise that the situation can't be changed and they decide whether they want to remain in the marriage or not."
CONFLICT AVOIDANCE AFFAIR:
Conflict avoiders don't fight because they want to avoid conflicts. An actor, Gita left her husband for another man. "He told a common friend that he doesn't know why our marriage broke up, he thought it was perfect. That's because I didn't expressed my feelings of resentment." Gita admits that sometimes she buried her resentments because the issues seemed too trivial. Women who've been married for 10-15 years, suddenly realise the injustice of their lot and feel resentful. The result - an affair.
INTIMACY AVOIDANCE AFFAIR:
Darsha avoids emotional intimacy with her husband because she's afraid of becoming vulnerable. She has already had a fling that lasted for three months. Dr Bhonsle, is reasonably sure that she'll have another affair soon. "Those who avoid emotional and physical intimacy are those who've been hurt again and again," she says. "Whenever Darsha tried to express her innermost feelings to her husband, she met with rebuffs. This led to anger and depression. Today she can't feel anything for him, and avoids letting him get emotionally close to her."
SPLIT SELF AFFAIR:
This is synonymous with midlife crisis, the feeling of being fed up with a marriage. It usually hits the classic 'nice guy' or 'nice woman' . "It happens to people who've had an ideal image of marriage," says Dr Bhonsle. "Suddenly they feel that they've given too much to the marriage, leaving nothing for themselves. So they seek companionship with someone who will massage their individual identity."
GROWING UP AFFAIR:
When Rajiv married Komal, he thought he had found perfect happiness. She reminded him of his mother. Six years later, he's realised he doesn't want a mother figure. "Here, one spouse asserts what's called the 'parent ego' , trying to remain central in the spouse's existence," explains Dr Nirmala Rao, psychiatrist. In such relationships, one spouse grows up faster than the other hence leading to conflict.
ENTER AFFAIR, EXIT SHAADI:
The exit affair is the proverbial last nail in the coffin of a marriage. It's an excuse for a marriage, which has lost all meaning, to finally break up. "The spouse who's having an exit affair is usually blatant about it. They wants the spouse to find out about the affair and end the marriage," says Dr Bhonsle.
CHEMICAL LOCHA:
"This is a purely chemical problem and has nothing to do with the marital relationship or the spouse," says Dr Bhonsle. "I've seen marriages going bust due to the change in dopamine level in one partner. Dopamine is a neuro-transmitter which affects moods greatly. A change in its level creates a biological predisposition to simply fall out of love." This problem usually strikes individuals who have a trace of schizophrenia running in the family.